Love Blog For Lonely Housewives, Cheating Husbands

Dear Dr. Brothers: My husband and I have been married four years. We have no children yet, partly because both of us have decided to wait a couple more years until we’re more settled financially. Naturally, we were thrilled when he got a promotion, and even though it meant more work for him, it also meant a lot more money. We love each other, and I’m almost positive he isn’t having an affair. He’s just not the cheating type, but in plain words, I want more sex. It doesn’t seem to bother him that our passion almost seems to have disappeared, but it does me. I don’t want to cheat on him. Any suggestions? — N.N.

Dear N.N.: I think you should talk about this with him if you haven’t already — not in a nagging way, but in a manner that reassures him of your love and perhaps expresses your concern that he might be overtired because of his heavy new work schedule.

The point is that you don’t want to add to his pressures, but instead find creative ways to relax — not just those areas directly related to sex, but rather thinking of entertainment you both enjoy when you are together. He might need to be reminded of some of the fun you had before there were so many responsibilities. Find time to cuddle, to hold hands during a film — in other words, focus on removing sexual demands, and just share activities together. This can put sex back into perspective. Encourage him to talk about his feelings and to share any problems he may be having.

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