Adultery Leaves A Trail Of Broken Hearts And Marriages
December 29th, 2009 by The Babe
Adultery was once considered a sin – or at least a secret. Not online. The Internet dating craze is blazing a trail of broken marriages thanks to dozens of sites inviting participants to identify themselves as “not so happily married,” “married but that shouldn’t matter” or even, “married but we swing.”
Studies show some 30 percent of online dating visitors are married – and recent research by the University of Florida reports that what starts out as flirting and cybersex quickly escalates into the real thing.
The Internet became an easy escape for “Barbara,” a 43-year-old married New Yorker who dated about 60 men in three years until she met Steve, who’s also married – but now sneaking around with Barbara. “We see each other once or twice a week,” she says. “We have a lot in common, have a great time together and the sex is phenomenal.”
She says a cold husband sent her surfing for more. “There was no warmth or any physical affection,” she says glumly. She tried cajoling her husband into seeing a marriage counselor, but after only one visit, he refused to return. She didn’t want a divorce because of their 7-year-old daughter, so she posted an ad in one of the adult dating sites online.
“I’m not interested in jeopardizing my marriage or anyone else’s,” she told The Post. “I just wanted to find someone special I could click with.”
Other women interviewed by The Post say they’ve been searching for deeper emotional relationships than their husbands are able to give – but aren’t ready to leave.
“I guess the sex just isn’t what it used to be when we first met,” says Nicole, 28, a married New Yorker.
“I miss the feeling of sex being new and exciting. It’s addicting.”
Addiction is something Chris Samuels, the co-director of a sexual addiction treatment center in Greenwich Village, understands all too well.
She’s treated many married and unmarried patients who’ve gotten caught up in Internet lust.
“Its power is almost trance-inducing,” she says. “You can troll these sites and have a fantasy ready and waiting. Cybersex can provide a quick and powerful high. It’s like crack cocaine to sex addicts.”
Alfred, 49, is a self-described Internet Lothario who says he’s been “swinging” for 23 years.
Before going online, he would post ads in “swinger magazines,” sometimes waiting two to four months to set up a first meeting. Now his desires can be gratified almost instantly by posting ads online.
“While I’m open to a relationship, I’d prefer someone I can meet for no-strings mutual sexual pleasure on a continuing basis,” he says.
Alfred’s new online ads generally attract several interested women (“I’m a seller in a buyer’s market,” he says proudly).
He usually hooks up with married women, but says there are plenty of singles who don’t mind that he’s already spoken for.
Unfortunately, while these spouses are sowing their wild oats, there’s likely to be someone at home who’s getting hurt.
John LaSage, 43, from California, could attest to that – his wife left him and his two teenage daughters to take off with an Internet boyfriend.
The experience led him to create chatcheaters.com – a Web site designed to help dissuade potential cheaters and to comfort those who’ve been hurt by them.
“Chatting is OK, cheating is not,” says LaSage.
“People should realize how quickly relationships can form online. Flirting can lead to real-world affairs.”
If you suspect your spouse of having an online affair, “Bring the issue out into the open,” he says.
“Look out for the warning signs” – like excessive Internet use, new email accounts, turning off the computer when you walk in the room.
“If you just want a sexual hit, you can masturbate a lot quicker than having an affair,” she says.
“But it’s about gratification. They want someone to find them attractive, someone to want them passionately.”
But not every married person who’s gone the online route has found the affair of their dreams.
Wayne, a 49-year-old man from New Jersey, complains that his inbox is usually cluttered with undesirable partners and a fair share of transsexuals and cross-dressers.
But that may be just the ticket for a 34-year-old Lower East Side “Rockerdude” who advertises online that he’s hoping to make sweet music with men, women – and anything in between.
“Yes, I am married, but we have a very liberal, open-minded relationship – so be brave,” he writes.
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In The News – Cheating Wives Club
January 3rd, 2009 by The BabeThe Seattle Times Inbox Column
Online “Cheating Wives Club
By Charles Bermant, The Seattle Times Knight Ridder/Tribune Business News
Nov. 30 – A few months ago while wading through a ton of unsolicited messages, one caught my eye: It turned out that several women in my neighborhood were lonely and neglected by their husbands, and had joined an online “cheating wives club.”
In an effort to end their unfulfilment, they were using the power of the Internet to find love. This made me exceedingly curious about whom it might be, as all my neighbors seemed to have happy marriages.
Could it be that Mrs. Nelson isn’t exactly a happy homemaker, or Mrs. Bunker is on the prowl? Maybe that cute blonde Mrs. Keaton is a tigress at heart.
I didn’t click that particular link for a number of reasons. In the first place, there is my own marriage to consider. My wife seems to have lost the spirit of adventure and drew the line when I wanted to get a fifth dog.
And I’m not sure she always told the truth when we were dating. When she said she liked “classical music,” I thought she meant early Beatles. Still, things don’t always work out as promised, so you need to adapt. Besides, cheating on your spouse is one of those bad decisions you can’t un-make.
Then, we have the dumb criminal factor. That is, if you were going to cheat on your spouse, why would you use the Internet to make it happen? This advice follows the same slimy morality advice that it’s OK to lie, but don’t put it in an e-mail.
There are two reasons to not behave badly: because it is wrong and because you can get caught. People who use the Internet to line up assignations obviously don’t care about either.
Which leads to the main flaw of this “service.” If a woman is so inclined to cheat on her husband, presumably behind his back, why would she go online in order to advertise this? I realize that every relationship looks different from the outside, but I don’t know many guys who could survive the embarrassment and insult of a wife who advertised online to find a cheat partner.
So, like any husband who doesn’t want to devastate his wife, shatter his family or turn his own life upside down, I ignored the message. Or did I? A few weeks later I received a notice that read simply, “Dear Online Cheating Wife User. (3) ladies have responded to you for your date. You can begin your date with any of these (3) individuals by clicking below. Have Fun!”
This is where it crossed the line from irritation to malice. Any technically unsophisticated wife who read this message in her husband’s e-mail might trust him a little less, even though he had done nothing wrong.Since that kind of trust isn’t an issue in our home, I clicked on the link; out of curiosity. Here’s the place where I would find my own wife and we’d have a hot date, if life were like “The Pina Colada Song.”
Instead there is an unhappier ending. These links lead to unrepentant porn sites, pictures of women who disrobe for a dollar. Another e-mail trap, from people who are out to take your money and appeal to the worst in you. There ought to be a law.
You Are Probably Dating A Liar
July 14th, 2008 by The BabeLiar Lair – pants on fire!
Experts say, more than 90 percent of people lie in their online dating profiles. You can’t be shocked at the numbers. After all, what does it hurt to stretch the truth a little? Well sometimes more than a little.
Men tend to lie most about their relationship status. Why else do you think we have so many popular adult dating catering to cheating husbands? They also lie about their income and their education.
On adult dating sites such as Adult Friendfinder you’ll find men lying about the size of their penis. GASP! The lying bastards.
They also lie about their height. This little tidbit has been researched worldwide and it’s a common phenomenon. Usually men overestimate their height by at least an inch. (They must be using the same measuring tape when they give you the size of their penis.)
Because being six feet tall seems to be a benchmark for men, men who are shorter than six feet have a strong desire to present themselves as taller than they really are. But men who are six feet or taller don’t feel the same need to lie. Men who are 5′11″ only lie by one inch, but men who are 5′10″ will sometimes lie by two inches so they can hit that magical six foot mark.
Women Are Liars Too!
We’re not letting the single women off the hook. Their biggie is lying about their weight. The ladies tend to deduct more weight depending on their age. For the 20 something crowd five pounds will do. Once the women hit the magic 30 or 40 mark they’re liable to deduct up to fifteen pounds. Many online dating services are now changing the way they handle the issue of weight, asking for a general body type (i.e. thin, athletic, a little overweight, etc.) instead of an actual weight.
You won’t be shocked to find out that the majority of women online are lying about their age. Usually they’re only taking off a few years.
Women don’t tend to lie about their relationship status they way men do. All in all (except for the weight issue) they tend to be more honest.
So what have we discovered. Not only do men and women lie about their marital status, it appears they lie about everything else too. Keep the lights off in the bedroom
Find Yourself A Secret Lover!
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Cheating husband hid wife’s body
January 12th, 2007 by The BabeAn unfaithful husband who strangled his wife and fled with her body in his car boot has been sentenced to a minimum of 16 years.
Wealthy businessman Derek Symmons, 63, strangled his wife of 38 years, 59-year-old Christine, in the hall of their £1 million home in Loudwater, Hertfordshire.
He attacked her when she taunted him about being impotent and insulted the memory of his dead mother hours after they had been to a marriage counselling session. 
She had just discovered the father-of-two had been cheating on her with 52-year-old teacher Myra Croney who he met through an internet dating agency. He then bundled her body, wrapped in polythene, into the boot of their BMW before catching a cross-Channel ferry to Calais and driving to Macon in central France.
He only confessed to the murder when his daughter Claire phoned him the following day worried about her mother’s safety. He told her : “I’ve done something terrible. You’ll never forgive me.”
During the trial at St Albans Crown Court, Symmons claimed he acted in self-defence when his wife attacked him over his affair. But judge Michael Baker, QC, said he had rejected his evidence as a “web of deceit”, adding: “You painted yourself as a loving husband, cut to the quick by your wife’s taunts about your mother and your claimed impotence.
“Whatever your sensitivity on these matters, the reality is you were conducting an affair at the time and, even after your wife found out about it and you had begged to be forgiven, you had no real intention of stopping it.
“You killed your wife in an impulsive act when, uncharacteristically, she stood up to you.
“Nothing she said or did justified any violence on your part, let alone the extreme and savage beating and strangling you meted out to her.”
The judge went on: “Your conduct after the event was calculated, cold- hearted and callous.
“Instead of immediately ringing for the emergency services as any contrite man would have done, you wrapped your wife’s body in polythene and concealed it in the boot of your car.
“You took steps to clear the scene of incriminating clues, you cashed some money at a hole in the wall in the early hours, you went briefly into work, and you drove to France.
“I reject completely your claim that you did not know what you were doing.
“You only stopped trying to escape when your daughter rang and asked where her mother was. It was only then that the spark of humanity returned to you and you realised that you could not keep up the charade.”
Symmons, wearing a black suit and white shirt, showed no emotion as he was jailed for life.
During the three-week trial the court heard that by the summer of last year the couple’s marriage was in deep trouble.
Mrs Symmons, a hairdresser and onetime Samaritan, had found out he had been cheating on her.
In June Symmons had accidentally phoned home on his mobile phone while with his lover Ms Croney.
His wife heard them kissing and him saying “I love you” followed by “it’s too hot to wear knickers in the summer”.
Mrs Symmons discovered condoms in his wallet, a prescription for Viagra and by checking his credit card bills discovered he and Ms Croney had stayed at hotels together including one in Venice.
Nadine Radford QC, defending, said Symmons had lost everything in a “spontaneous fit of action”.
She added: “His children and his grandchildren and any future grandchildren are lost to him. It is likely that he will either die in custody or he will be released and will die shortly after that.”
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Pepsi executive fired for extramarital affair and blackmail
December 5th, 2006 by The BabeThat’s what happened to top Pepsi Bottling Group executive Gary Wandschneider..
Pepsi Bottling fired him Thursday after launching an internal investigation. He had been with the company 24 years, working his way up from production manager. The 54-year-old multimillionaire had a liaison with 22-year-old Jessica Wolcott, who he met in February on craigslist.com.
A month later, after exchanging e-mails and photos, he met her in person at a Mount Kisco, N.Y., bar. Then she began shaking him down for $125,000 by threatening to tell his wife, children and bosses he was trolling the Internet for women. “I’m sure this will be an unpleasant surprise. I’m sure when your wife finds out that you’ve been looking for a fill-in for her … it will be unpleasant for her, too,”
Wolcott e-mailed Wandschneider, a father of three and executive vice president for worldwide operations at Westchester, N.Y.-based Pepsi Bottling, according to court documents.
The court documents do not identify Wandschneider or Pepsi Bottling, but a federal law enforcement source and Pepsi Bottling confirmed he was the person targeted by Wolcott. 
Trying to remain anonymous in her threats, Wolcott used the e-mail account “cheater_eater@hotmail.com.” “Here’s hoping your life is still a living hell and worrying every day that your name will be in the news or on a TV movie for what you’ve done to your wife,” Wolcott threatened him, according to the court documents.
Wandschneider transferred $125,000 to Wolcott’s online account — but only after he alerted the FBI, which provided the money and set up a sting operation to arrest her, the court documents said.
Wolcott pleaded guilty to charges of extortion in U.S. District Court in White Plains, N.Y., and is free on bail awaiting sentencing, scheduled for February.
Wandschneider’s story is hardly an isolated case. But legal experts say it’s difficult to gauge how frequent cases like this are. “We don’t know how many of these incidents that aren’t reported,” said Zach Carter, former U.S. attorney for the eastern district of New York. “We only find out when someone is unsuccessful and the victim calls the authorities. We don’t know how many tries there have been. Successful acts of extortion are never reported.”
Safe Internet Meetings
October 28th, 2006 by The BabeDo Not Give Out Personal Information – At first, since your contact is anonymous by email, you need not give your full name, telephone number etc. to the other individual. Only after you feel comfortable should you exchange personal information.
Meet in a Public Place – Until you feel comfortable with someone, you should meet in a public place, where you feel comfortable. “……