Americans Canadians May Share Views on Cheating
June 16th, 2010 by The Babe-
One in three Canadians say they’ve had an affair, with Ontarians and Quebecers the most likely to have stepped out on a partner (36% and 34% respectively).
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Married men are much more likely to have cheated than married women (13% vs. 8%) although when it comes to having a physical relationship with someone else who is married, the genders are nearly neck and neck.
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More than half of Canadians believe everyone thinks about cheating at some point.
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Over a third of Canadians figure cheating doesn’t mean a lack of love for one’s partner, while 18% of Canadians think cheating once can actually be positive for a relationship.
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Quebeckers are especially forgiving, or at least understanding, of infidelity – 53% of respondents in La Belle Province said cheating on someone doesn’t mean you don’t love them, and 28% said a one-off affair can actually be beneficial to the relationship.
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A startling 40% of Canadians say they know they were cheated on at some point
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Only 13% of Canadians think being unhappily married but staying together for the kids’ sake is
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Apparently getting back at a cheating spouse is only a reasonable excuse for 18% of those surveyed.
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Four in five of Canadians would confront their significant others if they suspected them of cheating.
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60% of Canadians would check their credit card statements or phone bills for evidence, and nearly half of Canadians would go so far as to follow their partners to see where they were wandering to.
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If amateur private eye activities unearthed evidence of an affair, 50% would confront their partners with the proof and talk about it (with women being more likely to take this approach than men).
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Two out of five Canadians would ask if their partner was cheating and give him or her a chance to come clean before they waved the evidence in their face..
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29% would end the relationship then and there
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43% of Canadians would keep our options open and try to work it out.
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Only 10% of Canadians would automatically forgive our partner’s transgressions.
Ultimately forgiving the spouse or partner could depend on the nature of the affair.
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Nearly two thirds of Canadians would find our significant other having an affair with our best friend the hardest to forgive
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28% said it would be most difficult if it was someone at work
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One in four thought an ex would be the biggest blow.
And if their partners did “fess up”, what then?
When we seek out that old boyfriend or girlfriend on Facebook, are we innocently checking in to see how that person’s life is going? Or are we secretly hoping for a confidential hookup?
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77% of Canadians admit that we’ve been in contact with someone we used to be in a relationship with, though it’s nearly split down the middle when it comes to the number of Canadians who initiated the contact and those of Canadians who found ourselves on the receiving end of an ex reaching out.
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Just over half of Canadians figure Facebook and other social networking sites are the best way to
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only 10% of Canadians think looking up an former flame is a big no-no.
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two out of five of Canadians would be willing to chat with an ex-lover because we might be able
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Another two out of five would exchange cursory updates but not try to carry on communication.
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Folks in British Columbia. were much more open to the idea of being friends with an ex (53%) than those in Saskatchewan and Manitoba (35%), while Quebecers were the most likely to say a firm “non!” – what’s in the past is in the past.
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In general, they found women are more likely to think that reconnecting with a past lover is a bad idea.
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A full third of those surveyed believe that all this talk of being friends with exes is baloney, and the only reason former flames try to open lines of communication is to re-establish a romantic relationship.
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Nearly two-thirds of Canadians would never get back together with an ex,
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one in five Canadians pine for the one that got away, and would do anything to re-ignite a specific previous relationship.
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Keep It In Your Pants In Kandahar
June 8th, 2010 by The Babe
Recently the commander of Canada’s battle group in Kandahar, Brigadier General Daniel Ménard, was suddenly kicked to the curb and ordered to return to Canada. The unexpected firing, almost certain to end the career of a soldier considered to be on his way to the top of the army, came after his commanding officer received reports that the General was having a sexual relationship with a female member of his staff.
His firing as head of the Canadian Forces in Afghanistan because of his alleged affair — is the first Canadian general officer to be dismissed on the battlefield since the Second World War.
An extramarital affair might not seem a serious issue to those outside of the military. The public is more than willing to forgive transgressions by movie stars, politicians (including presidents) and pro golfers. But it isn’t the extramarital sex (Ménard is married with two children) that poses the problem. It’s that it happened between soldiers, in a war zone.
It turns out that Canadian soldiers in battle are not allowed to have intimate relations of any kind.
That includes kissing, hand-holding and passing naughty notes in the mess tent. Amazingly, the rule applies even if they are married, which Gen. Menard is, although, unfortunately, not to the subordinate he allegedly was having sex with.
The hypothetical scenario behind the military’s banning of relationships amongst soldiers in war zones is simple. One is unlikely to order someone they’re in love with to risk death. Even if the two participants in a relationship are able to set aside their feelings and perform as professionals, others in the unit who know of their relationship might come to doubt that they would be treated fairly
Imagine having to fight a battle with someone who recently dumped you. If ordered by someone who’d just rejected your affections to stay behind and die, might you not be the least bit suspicious as to their motive?
Had Ménard been a low-ranked officer or an enlisted man, caught having an affair with a fellow soldier, it’s possible they would have gotten off with a thorough dressing down from an officer, off the record, and an order to be more discrete about it. But since Ménard was the top man, even though he’d never have faced the decision, from the safety of his headquarters, to send another member of the HQ staff into a minefield, he still had to go. A general cannot be judged by a different standard than the troops he commands.
Would you rather have active-duty soldiers who are actually getting laid or just desperately wishing they were? Someone needs to do a study on proving that celibacy and sexual frustration – actually improves performance in battle or any other aspect of life.
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Infidelity Ends Shania Twains Marriage
May 21st, 2008 by The Babe
Once again infidelity rears it’s ugly head and the consequences are hard for Canadian born country singer, Shania Twain and her six year old son.
Rumor has it that Shania’s husband, Mutt, (with a name like that what the hell can you expect) had been unfaithful with Marie-Anne Thiébaud, a longtime secretary and manager of the couple’s chateau in Switzerland. It’s also been reported that the relationship is ongoing and that Thiébaud had left her husband for Lange.
Twain, 42, and Robert ‘Mutt” Lange, 59, married in 1993. They have a six year old son, Eja D’Angelo.
An insider says the ‘You’re Still The One’ singer is ‘devastated’, adding: ‘This came out of left field … She loved him.’
Another source close to Twain said she was coping with the help of ‘a very close-knit group of family and friends.’
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