Survey Unveils What Happens in Bedroom
December 20th, 2008 by The BabeAssociated Press
STOCKHOLM, Sweden – Austrians love their bedrooms, but seldom make love in them. Malaysians often have sex in their bedrooms, but don’t get much sleep there.
Those are some of the conclusions of an international Gallup poll presented by Swedish furniture giant Ikea. The company wanted to know how frequently people in Europe, Asia and North America use their bedrooms for different activities, including sleeping, relaxing and “romance.”
- In Sweden and Iceland, 72 percent of respondents said they use their bedrooms for romantic endeavors, while in China the same figure was 20 percent.
- Malaysians were the most sexually active — 43 percent said they have sex daily in their bedrooms. Malaysia was also the place were people sleep the least: Six hours and 36 minutes per night, about half an hour less than the survey’s average.
- Austrians ranked low in sexual activity, but were the most satisfied with their bedrooms, ahead of Belgians and Swiss. Russians were the least satisfied.
- Spaniards and Americans were most likely to keep their bedrooms private.
- Almost half of Chinese allowed their friends access to their bedrooms.
- Other facts in the survey: Three-quarters make their bed daily; people who frequently change their mattresses have more sex; and the most common fixture of a bedroom is the alarm clock.
The survey included 14,000 IKEA customers in 27 countries. The margin of error was 4.5 percentage points.
Office Christmas Parties Can Reveal Workplace Affairs
December 18th, 2008 by The BabeGo With Him to the Christmas Party
“It’s no secret that the workplace is the #1 place for cheating husbands and boyfriends to find willing females with whom to have extramarital affairs,” says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on You?- 829 Telltale Signs.
Houston says, “Workplace infidelity is not always easy to detect. Men commonly use job-related excuses to cover up their extramarital affairs. So if you think he might be romantically involved with someone on his job, attending his office Christmas party with him is one of the best chances you’ll get to find out whether or not what you suspect is true.”
A Rare Opportunity
According to Houston, office Christmas parties and other company-sponsored social events give you a rare opportunity to observe your husband or boyfriend in a social setting with the women he works with everyday.
Houston says, “By watching how he interacts with his female co-workers, you’ll be able to tell without a doubt, whether or not he’s involved in a workplace affair. But knowing what to look for is the key.”
Be Alert for Signs of Infidelity
“Keep your eyes and ears open for signs of infidelity,” advises Houston. “You never know what you might see or hear. Depending on how observant you are, you might even be able to figure out exactly which female he’s cheating with. Nine times out of ten, their body language and behavior around each other will give them away.”
But Houston continues to stress that knowing what to look for is the key.
Tip Sheet Tells What to Look For
To find out what to look for, send for Ruth Houston’s FREE tip sheet entitled “What to Look for at the Office Christmas Party if You Suspect a Workplace Affair.” E-mail InfidelityAdvice @ gmail.com with “what to look for-prw” in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert, Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on popular infidelity issues and infidelity-related breaking news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the New York Post, Cosmopolitan, Newsday, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, the Chicago Tribune, the Toronto Sun, the National Post, the Christian Science Monitor, First for Woman, City Life, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, LavaLife, Netscape Love and numerous other print and online media worldwide.
Ruth has been a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, Ireland’s Late Late Show, 1010WINS, Sirius Satellite Radio, Telemundo, Court TV Radio, Power Talk Radio, BBC, CBC, CNN and over 270 radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, New Zealand, Australia, and the Caribbean.
Visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com for more information about Ruth Houston, her book, signs of infidelity, cheating men, or extramarital affairs.
Christmas And The Single Person
December 17th, 2008 by The Babe
Did you know that more than 47% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals? The American Association for Single People projects this figure will continue to rise in the coming decade. Therefore, if you are single you are not alone. And … if you have single adults in your social circle, don’t assume alone means “lonely.”
As Christmas approaches and we start making holiday plans, here are some things to keep in mind.
- Perception One: That it’s terrible to be alone for the holidays.
- Reality: This is mostly a projection of married people who fear the unknown or could not tolerate being alone before they were married. The reality is that single people who observe what goes on at holiday get-togethers between couples, 50% of whom are destined to be divorced at some point, think there are worse things than being single.
- Perception Two: That single people are desperate to be invited over for Christmas dinner.
- Reality: Single people have myriad options and no one to consult. I can go on a cruise, stay home in my bathrobe and declare it a non-holiday, do meaningful volunteer work at the homeless shelter, invite friends over, or get a dinner reservation at a hotel. Or I can accept any one of the numerous invitations I get. Contrary to what you might think, we single people are popular at the holidays. Most of us have accomplished social skills and are welcome additions at holiday gatherings
- Perception Three: Single people don’t know what to do for holidays.
- Reality: We’re used to planning our social lives actively, good at generating options, used to making unilateral decisions, and accomplished “mixers.” We’re pros!
- Perception Four: Anyone who’s single is fair-game to perform certain social tasks during the holiday celebration.
- Reality: We like to be cherished guests, just like everyone else. “Can you come for Christmas dinner. I need some help with Aunt Edna?” is not an invitation. If your family doesn’t get along and you’re inviting the single person to “throw a steer in with the bulls,” that’s not nice either. It’s your problem; solve it yourself.
- Perception Five: Single people are available to do certain physical tasks.
- Reality: This isn’t an invitation either: “Can you come over early and help out in the kitchen. I’ve got my hands full.” What about her husband? Her sisters? As best-friend, yes; as the only working-guest, absolutely not.
- Perception Six: That the only “happy” way to spend the holidays is if you are a couple or part of a family.
- Reality: If that were so, half the articles on the Internet this time of year wouldn’t be about how to cope with family at the annual holiday get-togethers.
- Perception Seven: That single people are miserable during the holidays.
- Reality: Yes, it can be difficult if it’s their first Christmas after a divorce or after a spouse h as died, but the majority of single people are no more miserable than anyone else, and perhaps less so. Since being single (with grown children), I’ve had the same levels of pleasure, the same good and better holidays, but there’s one thing for sure – I’m more rested, and that in itself goes a long way.
So if you’re thinking about including a single person in your family gathering, make sure it’s because you want them there, not to fulfill a function or because you think they’d be miserable if it weren’t for your invitation. A guest is a guest, whether they’re single or married, and good manners prevail.
Sex And The City
December 16th, 2008 by The BabeLaumann and his staff at the university examined how race and sexual orientation play a role in forming relationships and how multiple sexual partners and jealousy also work into the equation. Among other things, they found that, between the ages of 18 and 59, those surveyed cohabited an average of nearly four years and were married about 18. The rest of the time — an average of about 19 years — they were dating or alone, with no steady companion.
Researchers interviewed 2,114 people in the Chicago area from 1995 to 1997, as well as police officers, clergy and social workers. They also took an in-depth look at neighborhoods with predominantly black, Latino and gay populations.
Divorce was, of course, one of the big reasons so many people were single. But so was the fact that many young people are putting off marriage — sometimes because of school, but also because many are approaching the institution of marriage more warily.
Laumann and his colleagues say markets also are often defined by racial group, neighborhood and sexual orientation.
- Young, upper-income people on Chicago’s north side were more likely to meet their partners at school or work.In Latino neighborhoods, for instance, family, friends and the church played a more important role in forming partnerships among those surveyed.
- Women surveyed were, for instance, less likely to meet a partner through work, church or other “embedded institutions” as they got older — making it more difficult to find someone. Laumann says that may be due, in part, to the fact that men in their 40s often sought women who were at least five to eight years younger.
- Many gay men in the survey focused largely on transactional relationships, while lesbians were far more interested in relational connections.
- Researchers also addressed the issues of multiple partners and jealousy. Overall, 23 percent of men and 31 percent of women said they experienced jealous conflict at some point during their relationships.
- And researchers found that cohabitation resulted in more jealousy — and physical violence — than it did among married couples.
- Men were more likely than women to have more than one sexual partner.
- Among those surveyed, 20 percent of men and 6 percent of women said they’d had sex with at least one other person during their most recent relationship.
“What’s going on now is making the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s pale in comparison,” says Eli Coleman, director of the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota. He called Laumann’s work the most comprehensive since that of acclaimed researcher Alfred Kinsey, who surveyed people about sex in the 1940s.
Still, Laumann and his staff found that social services, the church and law enforcement have been slow to address this latest sexual revolution.
For instance, they found no shelters in any of the studied communities for gay domestic abuse victims. And most churches they examined were not good at “giving guidance about how you manage a stable, but non-married relationship,” Laumann says.
“It’s not approved. It’s not talked about,” he says. “Or they just look the other way.”
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Erotic Lingerie Banned TV Commercial
December 10th, 2008 by The Babe
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What If Clinton Admitted He Loved The Blowjob
December 4th, 2008 by The Babe
What if Clinton had said he loved the now famous blowjobs he received from Monica Lewinsky?
By Karen Cook at The Village Voice
It’s hard not to be furious with Bill Clinton. Not because he fucked—or sucked, or got sucked by, or spurted all over—Monica, or because he cheated on Hillary, or because he lied to the country. The First Adulterer’s real crime is that he didn’t take advantage of his wrecked presidential image by also blowing American sexual hypocrisy to smithereens.
Read his lips: “Yes, I had sex, I enjoyed it, I did exactly what I wanted to do, and you all should be so lucky. You guys wanna impeach me for getting a blowjob? Go right ahead.” If Clinton had dared to say something so nakedly honest, maybe we wouldn’t have had to ask if he was merely asserting his masculinity when he decided to bomb Afghanistan and Sudan. Lies and half-truths can get ugly, especially if you have to send friends, colleagues, and an entire government out to cover up on your behalf.
Integrity, alas, has always been far too revolutionary a concept for politics. Some pols even like to argue that it’s detrimental to effective leadership. Many of Clinton’s signature compromises were built on sexual hypocrisy (just ask Joycelyn Elders or gays in the military). Even after admitting to Gennifer Flowers and dodging Paula Jones, he’s still making a public show of going to church, Hillary in one hand and a Bible in the other.
Clinton bows his head about apparently consensual sex at the same time that a whorehouse is busted in New Jersey and half the businessmen in town are on the premises. When New York cops are getting caught using a brothel. And as ever, politicians are keeping mistresses on the side, or they’re ditching their dying wives, or they’re really gay, but so what? The joy of being a guy is getting to do what a guy gets to do. What’s the point of being Horatio Alger if you can’t reap the rewards?
For men in America, the reward is clearly unbridled sex. Wilt Chamberlain beds 20,000 women. Teddy Kennedy reportedly has intercourse on a table in the secluded room of a posh Washington restaurant. Rock stars gorge on an unending feast of groupies. (Superstar women, by contrast, earn the privilege of bearing children out of wedlock.) The entire capitalist apparatus is set up to sell women as reward: what’s the come-on in the bottom of all those liquor-ad ice cubes? Why do you need some sultry babe to sell a car? Why wouldn’t you want to be like John Kennedy, anyway? Who wouldn’t want to fuck Marilyn Monroe?
Not surprisingly, the media has decided that the drama in the Clinton scandal revolves around women: Hillary’s heartbreak, Monica’s welcoming lips, Tripp’s betrayal, Goldberg’s dirt, Currie on the cross. Indeed, the only time male sex gets called into question is when it somehow fucks up a career. On those rare occasions when the luck of the double standard runs out, the rest of the male establishment snaps to attention. If a guy needs nookie so bad it’s about to cost him his job, something freakish must be going on: it’s for moments like this that terms like sex addict and compulsion were invented. But Clinton’s no sex addict: he’s just another guy who thinks success gives him an inalienable right to whatever he desires.
There is a compulsion that links Clinton to other pols at the center of sexual scandal—not the lascivious behavior, but the childish, self-destructive acting out that starts up when it seems they might really be held responsible for their actions. Back when men were men, it was understood that they could preach monogamy unto death in public and keep a harem in private. Progressive politicians, with their prowoman agenda, pay lip service to a world in which there must be a little more accountability than that. Which is why the guys who behave most bizarrely when they get caught in flagrante delicto tend to be liberals.
First, of course, was candidate Gary Hart, who opened the door on every politician’s bedroom by taunting the media with cries of “Come and get me.” And then there was Senator Bob Packwood, defending the feminist agenda by day and pinning women to his desk by night. Amazingly, Packwood also pulled a Hart. Congress demanded his diaries, and he complied, but kept on writing them, admitting his own lies and cover-up. And, if a recent Drudge Report is to be believed, Clinton fits the same mold: he goes on TV and says he made a mistake, but he allegedly wears Monica’s tie while doing it. As one Drudge source said, that could be construed as Clinton’s “finger to the world.”
But it’s no surprise he’s enraged. In his set, vows are something that can be winked at—unless the little woman is cheating on you. Being suddenly held to the sexual rhetoric that tells Clinton he can only have sex with one woman for the rest of his life must make him want to slit his throat. Hell hath no greater fury than a person whose privileges are suddenly denied. What if you’re a hot young stockbroker and they give you a lousy seat at Le Cirque 2000? What if you’re trying to hail a taxi and they treat you like a black person and won’t pick you up? What if you’re a man who thought that the whole point of power is to get laid and then it turns out you can’t do it anymore? Clinton’s fury was the only authentic emotion in his speech. He’s as angry as every single other Angry White Male we’ve seen over the years.
The president is pissed. Where does Starr get off telling him what to do? How come the most powerful man in the free world can’t get the sexual privilege god gave a jock? Marv Albert’s going back on the air, for god’s sake! Athletes can still get away with raping women! And the president can’t get a blowjob? (Probably the only comparable case of denied privilege in sports is O. J. Simpson’s—like Packwood, he seems to flirt with the idea of confession, and like Clinton, he’s utterly mystified that anything could tarnish his golden glow. But even in this society, murder is going too far. For that, you’ve got to sell the mansion.)
If only Clinton had called a blowjob a blowjob, he might have started an adult conversation about sex, relationships, power, and privilege. He might have helped remake America as a nation that could have real scandals, like Italy or Japan. He could have disrupted the narrative of Hillary as victim and sparked a more intelligent discourse about the possibility of a union in which the bonds may not be primarily sexual. It would be fascinating to hear Hillary discuss such a marriage, except that she too is wedded to fake story lines. She may have replaced the previous months’ incessant hand-holding with an equally suspect distance, but that’s most likely just Bill’s scripted punishment. When she permits his redemption, will the whole country follow suit?
Clinton could have contributed something really useful to the public exchange in that speech of his. But no. And so the same old tired songs play nauseatingly on.
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