The Lady Needs More Sex
March 27th, 2007 by The BabeDear N.N.: I think you should talk about this with him if you haven’t already — not in a nagging way, but in a manner that reassures him of your love and perhaps expresses your concern that he might be overtired because of his heavy new work schedule.
The point is that you don’t want to add to his pressures, but instead find creative ways to relax — not just those areas directly related to sex, but rather thinking of entertainment you both enjoy when you are together. He might need to be reminded of some of the fun you had before there were so many responsibilities. Find time to cuddle, to hold hands during a film — in other words, focus on removing sexual demands, and just share activities together. This can put sex back into perspective. Encourage him to talk about his feelings and to share any problems he may be having.
Internet infidelity: are we all at it?
March 25th, 2007 by The BabeA survey of 15,000 US internet users in 2004 revealed that 32% of women, and 13% of men believed the web encouraged adultery.
Another UK study, published by the BBC, showed that 30% of internet users who have online lovers admit to having had sex with their virtual partners in the flesh.
Sexual equality - The same BBC study revealed that younger people are more likely candidates for webultery, and women are as likely as men to be unfaithful.
Slipping through the net - It also revealed that 70% of women and 54% of men remained in the dark about their spouses extramarital activity.
Porn ratings - In the US, meeting a new lover online and an obsessive interest in pornography are the top problems cited in internet-related divorce cases.
Too much chat - Other reasons for the breakdown of marriages, a panel of Chicago lawyers say, include excessive use of the net and chat rooms.
Email evidence - Staying in the US, 22% of men, and 14% of women have strayed at least once during their marriages. Peoples’ online activities are also being used against them in divorce cases. Almost 80% of US attorneys said that incriminatory emails had been part of divorce proceedings.
Agency makes breaking up easier
March 20th, 2007 by The Babe
Bernd Dressler will deliver the bad news - for those too scared to do it themselves - for 20 euros (£13) by phone, or for 50 euros (£33) in person.
The efficiency and directness of Mr Dressler’s manner has earned him the nickname The Terminator.
The 52-year-old compares his company to a dating agency but “in reverse”.
‘Only the messenger’
“We have had dating agencies for 30 years. If you want to have a new partnership then you have to quit your previous one.
“I think it’s the same market - just in reverse,” Mr Dressler told the BBC.
The message can be delivered in a “sympathetic or direct manner”. Mr Dressler said that most of his clients do not want any further contact with their ex-partner.
The client is asked to provide three reasons why they want to terminate the relationship - these are then passed on by the agency to the former lover.
“The time is right for this service. Many clients are unhappy in their partnerships and they want to end it in a neutral way,” Mr Dressler said.
The former insurance manager said he has been fortunate never to have witnessed any extreme emotional reactions.
“I am only the messenger,” he said.
Me Tarzan!
March 16th, 2007 by The BabeJane, a reporter, came to Africa in search of this legendary figure. One day, deep in the wild, she came to a clearing and discovered Tarzan vigorously thrusting into a jungle oak. She watched in awe for a while.
Finally, overcome by this display of animal passion, Jane came out into the open and offered herself to him. As she reclined on the wild grass, Tarzan became aroused. He quickly ran over and kicked her in the crotch. In pain, she screamed, “What the hell did you do that for?” Tarzan replied,
“Tarzan always check for squirrels.”
Nine Years Of A Cheating Husband
March 16th, 2007 by The BabeWe had a huge fight about it, and the girl and her friends were calling my home saying they were going to slit my throat. Then the phone calls stopped — until yesterday. The girl was trying to reach Rolly, and when I answered there was only silence on the other end of the line. I know he called her friend the night before, the one who said she would cut my throat. It’s hard to believe he would call someone who would say that to me, but he did. He tried to lie about it, but I have the phone records.
Please tell me what to do. My heart tells me one thing and my head tells me another.
– BROKENHEARTED IN COLUMBUS, MISS.
DEAR BROKENHEARTED: You have my sympathy. I’m sure it hasn’t been easy being married to a womanizer, and from your description of your husband’s behavior, Rolly definitely qualifies. I hope you will contact your doctor so you can be checked for STDs, because the quality of the women he’s chasing could not be lower.
The time has come to ask yourself “the” question: Are you better off with him or without him? And when you answer it, please use your head this time, because listening to your heart has given you nothing but grief.
Adultery could mean life, court finds
March 15th, 2007 by The BabeTechnically any time a person engages in sexual penetration in an adulterous relationship, he or she is guilty of CSC I, the most serious sexual assault charge in Michigan’s criminal code…. MORE
Suspicious spouse should avoid jumping to conclusions
March 11th, 2007 by The BabeSuspicious In Chicago Dear Suspicious in Chicago: Don’t play detective. You’ll be the bigger fool if you destroy your marriage through jealousy, without cause. Instead of sniffing for smoke, explain to Mr. Nice Guy that you feel discomfort about their new closeness. You appreciate his compassion towards this woman, but feel he may be sending misleading signals. If he continues to stay close to her and avoids discussion, tell him it’s unacceptable in a partnership and you’ll have to conclude he’s deceiving you. Couples’ counseling would then be the best chance for you two to explore why this outsider has been able to create this gap.
Love Is Not Blind….
March 10th, 2007 by The BabeLove is not blind - at least when it comes to facial plastic surgery.
Of people who are dating or married, 59 percent of women and 54 percent of men would like to change at least one feature on their partner’s face, according to an American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery survey released on Monday. Full Article
Until Death Do You Part
March 9th, 2007 by The BabeDEAR MARGO: The love of my life recently passed away. Now I need to know how to handle a situation with his widow. (Yes, he was married.) While we were seeing each other, she had reasons to suspect he was cheating and did enough research to connect my name to him, and even came and questioned me.
Per his wishes, I denied the affair and provided logical explanations for the various “evidence” she had. I think she wanted to believe me (us), but I know she was never 100 percent convinced.
Now that he’s gone, I would prefer that she continue in ignorance of his indiscretions, but I know that sooner or later she will come across a collection of letters, notes, poems, trinkets and treasures that will undeniably confirm her suspicions.
I thought about sending a card that says I had lied to her before, but I am now ready to answer her questions openly and honestly if she still wants the answers. But I would hate to seem as if I’m “rubbing it in” during her time of grief.
Should I wait some period of time before I send it, or should I forget it altogether and wait for her to come to me when she discovers the collection?
— DEAD MAN’S MISTRESS IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR DEAD: You seem pretty sure there’s “a collection.” He may not have kept a thing. In any case, do not make the first move. This woman may never get in touch with you.
And if she does, let your gut tell you whether or not you want to give her all this food for thought, or protect your love in death as you did in life.
— MARGO, THOUGHTFULLY
Dump The Cheating Boyfriend
March 5th, 2007 by The BabeRecently, I found out two things: I have genital warts (I don’t know from whom and Travis refuses to get checked) and Travis lives with a girlfriend and has for four years.
I want Travis to tell the girlfriend about the warts, but he won’t. He says she would throw him out and then get revenge by destroying his life. He wants to continue seeing me on the sly. I love him, but I feel guilty about this.
Stuck in the Middle
Get unstuck immediately. Travis is a snake. He’s cheating on his girlfriend and cheating on you, and he obviously has no intention of being faithful to anyone. You’d be a fool to keep seeing him on the side. Meanwhile, genital warts (HPV) can cause cervical cancer, so be sure to see your gynecologist. For more information, contact the American Social Health Association (ashastd.org) at 1-800-227-8922.