January 9, 2006
BY ELLIE TESHER
DEAR ELLIE:
I'm 34, have been happily married for 10 years and have two kids. The
problem is that, since my teens, I've been attracted to guys, and I've
felt I was bisexual.
I was able to keep
those feelings buried until the Internet arrived. I'll spare you the
details, but I met a nice guy, 20, who feels the same. He also has a
girlfriend. He and I have enjoyed each other's company physically and as
friends. We've met monthly for the past nine months.
Since sexual
orientation cannot be "fixed," is it worse to continue with this contact
in secret or to tell my wife, which would effectively end our marriage?
TORN